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From: Mike Brown,
co-Author of “Mastering Marriage”
Dear Fellow Believer,
Congratulations on believing in marriage, on not
giving up because your previous marriage didn’t survive. It’s hard to pick yourself up and
open your heart again but having the right person to share your life with is worth
the risk and the greatest feeling in the world.
If you are willing to lay the foundation for this
marriage and have the integrity to live by the ground rules you establish, you can
have the marriage of your dreams.
Think back to your previous wedding day and how
happy and in love you were. Wouldn’t it be glorious to wake up every morning for the
rest of your life and feel as lucky to be with your partner as you did then?
Since this is what all couples dream
of, why do so few achieve it?
You spent a lot of time preparing for your wonderful day,
now spend a little time preparing for your wonderful life!
Most people spend a great deal of time preparing
for their wedding and reception but simply allow their marriage
to “evolve” haphazardly through time.
Imagine the outcome of your big day if it had
“evolved” without any preparation. Even if chaos had
not prevailed, it’s virtually impossible that it would have
been remotely as you’d dreamed. It’s true of the wedding
and it’s true of the marriage.
Without Proper Preparation, Most Marriages Will
Fail. Most Marriages Fail.
The problem is people don’t even know you
can lay an impenetrable foundation for a marriage, let alone how.
When we ask if they prepared for their marriage like they did for
their wedding most couples ask us “What do you mean?”
It is easy to understand why so many people are
disillusioned after they marry and why most marriages don’t
last or, eventually, are not satisfying.
Most of the disappointments we suffer in our lives
are not because the actual situation is so terrible but instead
stem from the disillusionment that sets in when the reality differs
from our expectations. This is true in marriage also.
Almost all of us had unrealistic impressions of
marriage that developed over our lifetimes based on movies, TV,
magazines and newspapers. In addition, most people hadn’t
given any real thought as to what they personally expected and wanted
from married life. They just got married.
One of the major causes of the differences that
can grow into marriage-ending problems is that people do not have a well defined
marriage dream. This isn’t because they didn’t care, surely they did, or because they
were busy, which they probably were.
The truth is they simply didn’t
know what to do.
Their plan for their future together was that
they had no plan.
My wife and I wrote Mastering Marriage for
every couple who wants to grow happier and more in love each year. It
details every idea we have used for 25 years to
have a marriage that exceeds our wildest expectations.
The sooner you implement our suggestions the better.
Avoid a disagreement because you somehow broke a rule you didn’t even know existed!
We can’t change the past but we can dramatically
improve the future of your relationship. A little effort today can
avoid the situations that diminish marriages.
The result is a glowing marriage instead
of a blah marriage or divorce.
With a minimum of effort today, your marriage
will be everything you hope for. There are pitfalls you can avoid
and things you can do that will assure success.
A few of the many
secrets you’ll uncover in Mastering Marriage:
- Exactly how to prepare your Marriage PactTM,
the most important document next to your license and the foundation for your
future happiness.
- The most effective communication technique ever and the
key to making each other happy every day, in good times and bad.
- What we all do when we date that causes disappointment after
we wed and what you can do to correct it.
- Strengthen your commitment to each other every day with
three words more powerful than "I love you" and end any disagreement....almost
before it begins!
- Why not to treat each other like Mr. Potato Head®.
- Discover that the harder you work to be the perfect spouse the
more you can irritate your partner. Ouch!
- Mom's magic words, are still magic in marriage.
- Your life will run smoother once you see through the “Mirage of
Marriage” and don't put unrealistic demands on each other.
- Bend the Golden Rule and your spouse will be so happy to
be married to you.
- The most important decisions to make about sex and money
resolving two of the biggest areas of conflict in marriage.
- “Happily Married” is not an oxymoron! It's easy, fun and so
wonderful to grow more in love and happier to be married every year.
Give each other a wonderful gift,
a rock solid marriage full of love and respect.
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